BRUISES AND BONES HEAL BUT THE MIND WILL NEVER FORGET-STAND UP AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

I hate to be the one writing about this. I hate seeing this picture with all my heart, I hate having to talk about this because she is not the only one going through this in fact most women around the wold are struggling with domestic violence and are afraid to speak out but I see the need to raise awareness to every one out there because it can happen to any one of us. Kindly note this is a picture of a very close friend of mine, she gave me permission to write about it and she also trusted me enough to tell me what had happened to her.

When I received this picture yesterday I literally looked at it several times before I responded, you can only imagine what an animal would do this to another human being. The pain she must be going through all because of love. The physical and emotional scars she will live with for the rest of her life all because of a self obsessed monster who doesn't know what to do with his hands. No one deserves to be hurt like that and I love her for being able to speak out about this.She did not need tell the whole world but she took a step to speak out and that is good enough because surely the monster who did this will be punished accordingly.

We have all been victims of domestic violence one way or the other. Some of us were raised by violent parents,some of us were/are in abusive relationships and some of us are not even aware of the abuse until its too late. In my past relationship I was emotionally abused by my partner so one way or the other I am also a victim. I may hate talking about this but I love this post because I have the power to write about it. Like I said "the mind will never forget". As funny as it may sound arguments are a normal thing in many relationships but if the argument leaves you in tears because your partner insulted you or called you hurtful names, its abuse.

I personally have been called names and told how I was not worthy of marriage. The painful part is the fact that he used everything I confided in him against me, he called me illegitimate for growing up without a father and the same monster who did not value me would serenade me and apologize after insulting me like that and I would stupidly forgive him but he forgot one important thing, he forgot that every day I become a little stronger and a little wiser to walk away from him. Even though I do not have the bruises and scars to prove it, I can proudly say I am finally free, free from all the emotional abuse. I am stronger,wiser and no one can stop me from speaking out.

Being insulted or hit by your partner even once is unacceptable, and its even worse when he blames his rage and abusive character on you. No human being has the right to hit or insult another human being. I would like to apologize to all the good men out there and encourage them to continue doing good and not let abusers like these ones tarnish the male specie. To all the sisters out there never make excuses for your partners anger issues. Walk away while you still can, speak out if you have to, see a counselor, or something. We are all beautiful from the inside out and no one has the right to make us feel otherwise.

 STAND UP TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE NO ONE HAS POWER OVER ANOTHER'S BODY AND MIND, SINGLE OR MARRIED!!!

FAUX DREADLOCKS

Truth be told faux dreadlocks have been around for quite a while now but it only struck me when I saw Nicki Minaj and recently Zendaya graciously rocking the look. Since then I just knew I had to get the look no matter what. Please note "faux" is pronounced as "fou" alot of people struggle with this so if you one of them please note it. :) 

I did the big chop last summer on my birthday and I was getting bored of the short hair so much, fortunately faux dreads came to the rescue. Since I plaited myself it took me 4 and a half long days to complete this hair do. *went to hell and back, literally I wanted to die.* But the thing about faux dreads is you do your head twice *that is why I took a long time to finish* First you plait braids or twists underneath and then wrap the braids again to get the loc look.

I wanted to save some bucks with this one so I used normal kanekalon braid for the braids underneath and then wrapped them with some afro kinky hair which I actually recycled from my old hair do.So I spent zilch since the kanekalon hair was a half used pack from way back. Ha ha..You can use any hair you want really but kanekalon worked best for me maybe because its not too soft nor too hard?

If you do not want to use synthetic fiber you can use yarn instead and the good thing about yarn is its light weight and cheaper than kanekalon fiber plus it has a wide range of colors. The tip is to leave your front perimeter hairs out to reduce hairline stress or you can make loose connections that way your edges are not under stress.

My faux dread looks has grabbed a lot of attention and while its great there are a few things you need to note about synthetic faux locs:

>It wise to keep a minimal length as synthetic fiber is heavy plus if you plan on going waist length be prepared to manage the length so a manageable length is advisable to save you all the hassle and hairline stress.

>Choose a decent color. Faux dreads are a protective style so if you plan on getting them,a decent color that blends in almost anywhere you go is advisable as you might be stuck with them for 2 months or even 3, with regular wash and moisturizing of course.

>Pick a texture close to your natural hair. Well this depends on what your going for, I prefer the natural look over fake look so just because its  fake locks does not mean you can not slay it like its growing from your scalp. So a natural texture makes them look more presentable and appealing.

Be sure to be only the lookout for my next review on the style. I will tell you my yays and nays of this style.

Happy reading...