MY FAUX DREAD JOURNEY

Hey guys! I have been quiet for a while now right? How have y'all been? Ok so I have been really busy but all thanks to faux dreads, my hair was the last thing on my mind. They are so easy to manage, literally all I did every day was wake up and brush my hairline with a little hair moisturizer and an old tooth brush. I LOVE FAUX DREADS!!!!!!!!. I know I wanted to die after I spent 5 days doing my hair but it was worth it and I will definately do it again. 

And the comments I got for this hair do are amazing. Best part is as it gets older it becomes even nicer. To recap here are some of my fav snaps I took. :) 

NOTE:I am officially a faux dread addict. I will definitely try it with kanekalon fiber and some hard dread or even soft dreads. I kept this style for 2 months and I simply maintained it by applying some dermatol hair food to my scalp twice weekly and for the dreads I used a Revlon moisturizer (got it at game discount store), mostly because the moisturizer smelled nice.LOL :D I would advice not to use hair spray on the dreads as it will make your clothes and pillows really dirty from all the hair spray besides the goal is to make it look natural so oil will only make it look shiny and synthetic. Last week I installed a friend of mine and she is gaga about it. It only took us 12 hours to install them but it was worth it. She looks amazing! The versatility of the style and just the natural look it gives you is out of this world.You should try it too.. :p

NOTE: I am not readily available to do hair at the moment, if you want to do your hair (faux dreads only) you can comment below or email me @ DixieBW and I will let you know when am available. For now I just share hairstyles you can try out. Happy reading :)

5 REASONS WHY I KEEP GAINING BACK WEIGHT

Lets face it, loosing weight is easy the hardest part is how to keep it off . I recently stumbled upon my old food diary and it made me aware of a lot of things I did wrong back then and still doing them wrong to this date. I picked out top five mistakes that I think are the major reasons why I am yo-yo dieter.
1.THE SCALE IS MY WORST ENEMY
Weighing my self is like the last thing I want to do ever. Whenever I feel my jeans getting tighter I try my best to avoid the scale because I hate the stress and the guilt I get after. But its a bad habit because I end up gaining even way more weight so against all odds its always better to know the truth.
TIP: Wednesday is the best day to climb the scale as its in the middle so as weight fluctuates the most accurate results are likely to be on Wed.Just like a pH scale right?LOL
2. I DIET
Believe it or not dieting is not good for weight loss because it provides temporary results. It works no doubt about it but as soon as you stop dieting you going back to your old routine. No one can survive on a low-carb diet or a veggie diet all their life therefore DO NOT DIET.
TIP:Loosing weight is a lifestyle change so its better to teach yourself how to eat better and make healthy choices instead. 

3. I REWARD MY SELF WITH FOOD
Have you ever had that feeling where you feel like you can indulge a bit since you lost weight? If the answer is yes then this one is for you. While its OK to reward yourself for the hard work its a bad idea to resort to food as a reward.
TIP:Buying a new pair of skinny jeans or a little black dress instead is way better than rewarding yourself with the enemy.

4.I DEPRIVE MY SELF SOME SLEEP
After loosing weight its a must to go clubbing and dancing to show off the new body right? Wrong! Its actually bad to cheat your sleep regime and stay up late. Staying up late increases unhealthy eating and you become hungrier at night as sleep deprivation increases the hunger hormone before you know it you are fat again.
TIP:Aim for 6-8 hours of sleep each day your body will love you for it.

5.I STOPPED DRINKING WATER 
Whenever you are loosing weight, you are told to drink as much water as you can as it flushes out all the toxins and harmful substances that make you bloated and heavy. But its common for some of us to start thinking that its OK to indulge in sodas and skip on that glass of water which is really stupid and useless as it leaves us heavier instead.
TIP:Time your water breaks or keep a bottle/jar of water next to you  that way you don't forget to drink water.

BONUS POINT:
This is for those who are on certain medications. I am currently on prescription medication due to my headaches and a lot of meds are best known to increase appetite and trigger weight gain. So whenever you start new medication ask your doctor about the side effects and see if he can prescribe anything else. Your health comes first so do not stop taking your meds because you are scared of gaining a few extra pounds rather try and find a solution to the problem.
TIP: Google your medication and find ways to counter act the effects.

Happy reading...

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WHO KILLED CHIVALRY??MEN OR SELF-DEPENDENT WOMEN??

Seriously people!!! Come on.. It is actually sad that people still try blame gender equality and self-dependent women for killing chivalry. 

Gone are the days where men were the sole providers of their families. The nuclear family is dead and gone...While we still have a few nuclear families left, most of the families are not all nuclear, we have half siblings,step siblings,step parents and all. For some we are raised by single parents and extended families due to circumstances beyond our control.

Ladies now work high paying jobs just like men to sustain their families and while girl power is taking the world by storm some of the male population is switching the roles by being dependent on women.

Before I proceed any further let me define chivalry:

1st def: the medieval principles governing knightly conduct.

2nd def: very polite, honest, and kind behavior, especially by men towards women.

3rd def:The combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, namely courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak.

The way I see it both genders are equally to blame. We live in a world where people have turned to using others for their own benefits. While guys have turned to serenading a lady just to get into her pants,ladies also agree to go on stupid dates with a guy they don't even like to score a free meal in a fancy restaurant just so they upgrade their social status and some ladies have taken it upon themselves to chase around men they want, I am talking about the very same sisters who complain how their man never spoil them and all. Sister how do you expect a man you pursue to spoil you?You asked him out remember?? And some women give it up on the first date, gosh whatever happened to to self worth..Just because he bought you dinner and flowers doesn't mean he is a keeper. Dig deeper know his real intentions and test his ability to commit before you give it up. Ain't nothing wrong with abstainence. Don't sell your soul over a pair of heels or those expensive dinner he takes you to, you are priceless.

Back in the days guys used to be genuinely nice and kind but society has made the "bad-boy act" so acceptable that the nice guy is not nice anymore he is labeled as the "the player,the smooth talker, the ladies man". And some guys put up with the nice guy act just to get what they want from a lady.
Worst part about this is most assume that a gentleman is a guy that is chivalrous to his lady , no-no-no-no-no a REAL gentleman takes his sisters out shopping, pays for his mum's spa treatment not only his girlfriend in other words he takes care of all the women in his life. I personally am self dependent because I was raised by a single mom, she taught me that one does not need a man to get things done around the house but that does not mean she wanted to live without a man, she just worked with what she had while waiting for her prince charming. 

Despite my self-dependence I too want to find a real man who will give me the power to be a house wife (seriously I don't want to wake up everyday and go to the office) because he can provide for our family. Because he knows that even though I can provide for myself I do not need to, as he is there. For I am his rib, his number one fan, his baby, his female hitler, his sweet heart. (Lemme not get carried away here L.O.L)

Men of this century have somehow got it into their heads that women who are independent emasculate them while the real truth is they are intimidated by their success. An independent lady pays her own bills because she does not have a real man to do that and until a real man comes along she will not stop. All women really want is a guy that gets them, the type that says "hey I know you can afford to buy yourself dinner but let me do it for you because I am your man" mark my words "Your man" . N.B a real man does not go around buying every girl he meets dinner. He finds the one lady he fancies and then spends time with her hoping to get to know her more.

The social media era also has totally turned the tables around, instead of taking a girl out on a date and try to get to know her a guy would rather stay up till late going through her pictures and blowing up her inbox with messages telling her how "hot" she is. And because she lives in the society where beauty is quantified by the amount of likes she gets on her pictures she does not realize that she is being objectified instead she texts her B.F.F telling her about the cute guy thats in-boxing her.

On the other hand men easily objectify women with their sexist attitude, they wink and wolf whistle when a beautiful lady passes by and the idea sits well with them. They drool at a woman like she is a piece of meat and make explicit remarks without hesitation. Women on the other hand graciously perceive these remarks as modern complements.  There is a huge difference between a real compliment and a back hand compliment. Ladies its ok to want a man that takes care of you and that does not make you a gold digger, guys that only want to go out with independent women are just broke ass immature boys who don't want to spend a single penny instead they want to live in a fancy house,drive a fancy car,wear fancy clothes and eat free food paid for by an independent lady.

Perhaps self-dependence somehow is abused?Men are at the controls of a very strong puppeteer they act nice they are told its an act and when they act bad they are all called dogs. You can never get it right. Chivalry isn't the same to all of us.My own definition of chivalry is the act  of a gentle man and a lady to work together towards a common goal and  that is creating an environment which suits them both without exploiting each other. 

Ladies and Gents times have changed and chivalry is not dead it just evolved.Men can now relax a bit because they trust their partner is strong enough to cope with or without them and we as ladies should not spoil guys in order to receive love in return, remember he is not your son but your man. A real guy will see the need to take care of you even though you can do so yourself. A real man will have the audacity to ask you out on a real date and get to know you better. Its that simple.!!!!!

Happy reading!! :) Am always watching :)

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